(L) Edwin Arroyave and Teddi Mellencamp.Photo:Mindy Small/Getty
Mindy Small/Getty
Teddi Mellencampis addressing where she stands with estranged husband Edwin Arroyave afterfiling for divorcelast month.
On the first episode of her new podcastDiamonds in the Roughwith her formerReal Housewives of Beverly HillscostarErika Girardi, Mellencamp, 43, shared that despite her and Arroyave’s divorce, marrying him and having kids together is “one of the best things that [she’s] ever done.”
Mellencamp said during theDiamonds in the Roughpodcast that she and Arroyave, 47, both alternate leaving the house “when the other one comes in and sleeps.” She added that she stays atKyle Richards' home when Arroyave is staying with their children.
However, the television personality claimed that there was no ill will between her and Arroyave, adding that they “can both be there like for sporting events.” She clarified, “It’s not that we can’t. We’re completely happy to be around one another.”
Mellencamp explained that her “way through” the divorce is that she doesn’t “want to place blame.” However, she admitted that there will be moments where she does feel “angry, hurt, or upset” and that she is going through “the highs and lows.”
She added that through this process, she’ll grieve, “or maybe I’m going to fall back in love again. I don’t know.” Noting that she doesn’t want “to get to the place where [she feels] bitter.”
(L) Edwin Arroyave and Teddi Mellencamp.Isaac Brekken/Getty
Isaac Brekken/Getty
Mellencamp also reflected on how the divorce of her parents,John Mellencampand Victoria Granucci, is shaping how she wants to handle her own split. “There was so much mudslinging at each other,” she said of her parents, who married in 1981 and divorced in 1989. “It also became about pleasing them.”
She added that even 35 years after their divorce, she still tells her parents, “Please don’t call me the other person’s name” before noting that the pair aren’t using the labels as “a compliment.”
“There is a level of, like, am I supposed to feel shame for being a part of my parents?” Adding that “whenever they would bitch about each other, I would be like, ‘You guys chose to marry each other and have kids.'”
Mellencamp added that she and her siblings were aware of their parents’ “unhappy” moods as “we weren’t stupid.” As a result, she’s “not putting any emphasis on” her own moods throughout the divorce because “kids are very smart” and aware of their parents' mindset.
On Nov. 2, Mellencampannounced that she and Arroyave were separatingin anInstagram postand emphasized the importance of putting their children first through the transition.
“After a great deal of care and consideration, I have made the difficult decision to file for divorce,” the reality star wrote in her statement. “My priority is my children and ensuring that every care is taken with their privacy and wellbeing throughout this new chapter.”
“Making a public statement is not something I wanted to do,” she added, “But in an effort to protect my family from undue speculation and rumors, I have felt being open, honest, and vulnerable is the best path forward.”
Edwin Arroyave and Teddi Mellencamp with their children.Teddi Mellencamp Arroyave Instagram
Teddi Mellencamp Arroyave Instagram
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A week after her filing, Arroyave responded to her petition and requested the court give the former couple joint custody and block Mellencamp’s ability to receive spousal support but award him the same support. He further cited their prenup, stating: “The parties' Premarital Agreement sets forth the terms regarding the amount and duration of spousal support to be paid.”
Despite their split, Arroyave revealed onthe Nov. 26 episodeof hisThe Edspodcast that he and Mellencamp planned to still spendThanksgiving togetheras a family.
source: people.com
