Kelly Rizzo and Bob Saget in 2021.Photo:Leon Bennett/Getty Images
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Kelly Rizzois not allowing others to dictate the decisions in her life.
On Sunday, the actress and podcaster, 44, shared a video to herTikTok, in which she responded to a user who defended her for moving on withBreckin Meyertwo years after her husbandBob Sagetdied.
In the video, she opened up about how losing a spouse is different for everyone and said that “unless you are a widow or a widower, you truly have absolutely no place and no right to comment on this, because you do not know what it’s like.”
“You just don’t understand the incredibly complex and difficult and dynamic thoughts and feelings that come up during this entire process,” Rizzo continued.
The actress said that even months or years after a spouse dies, widowers experience feelings of grief, guilt and loneliness.
“You feel guilty, you feel shamed, you feel horrible, but yet you also feel lonely, and so you wanna do it,” she said. “At some point, when it crosses your mind to even think about starting to date again, [you have] those thoughts.”
For Rizzo, she said she had the “support and love” of Saget’s family — including his daughters Jennifer, 31,Lara, 34, and Aubrey, 36 — as she considered dating again.
“They’re telling you it’s OK, but yet you still feel really weird about it,” she explained, later adding, “In my situation, it was Bob’s daughters, Bob’s friends. They were saying, ‘It’s OK.’ So I’m like, ‘OK, it must be OK.’ But you still need to feel OK with it and [have] peace with it in your heart.”
“I didn’t personally get to that point until well after a year after Bob had passed,” she continued. “And then I didn’t start dating until 18 months or so after Bob passed.”
From left: Aubrey Saget, Bob Saget, Kelly Rizzo and Lara Saget.Leon Bennett/WireImage
TheFull Housestar, whodied in January 2022at age 65 fromhead trauma, was previously married to screenwriter Sherri Kramer. They welcomed three children together before they split in 1997. In 2015, Saget met Rizzo and theymarried three years later.
Rizzobegan dating her now-boyfriendMeyer earlier this year, but she noted that the timeline looks different for everyone.
“Sometimes men move on just a couple of months after their spouse passes away and sometimes people never do,” she explained. “It’s not one size fits all, but there is absolutely no room for judgment. You cannot judge whether you’ve been through the same thing or not, it is not your place to judge because everyone goes through it differently.”
“You know how important your loved one was in your life,” she continued. “And as long as you are honoring that and honoring them and being true to your feelings, and you know that you’re also having the love and support and trust from your spouse’s loved ones and friends, then you can’t be doing it wrong.”
“Bob is always gonna be a part of my life,” she concluded her video. “And I’m very fortunate that I was able to find someone who holds space for that and appreciates it and gets it, and is strong enough and confident enough to know that Bob’s always gonna be a part of my life.”
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Rizzo has been candid about grieving Saget’s death before. InJanuary, she spoke withPEOPLE in 10about sharing some stories about their time together in hernew book, and in October, Rizzoopened up to PEOPLE about “always” celebrating Sagetno matter what.
“I think that for as long as I live, I’m always going to want to be celebrating Bob and talking about Bob,” Rizzo said at the time. “It makes me happy to talk about him.”
In early February, PEOPLEconfirmed Rizzo was dating Meyerafter they stepped out atSteven Tyler’s annualGrammy Awardsviewing party hand-in-hand, making their first appearance as a couple.
“It tooka while to get to the point where I’m like, ‘OK, I think he’d be happy with it’” Rizzo toldE! Newsat the party.
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Days later, the two were photographed out and aboutin Los Angeles holding hands.
source: people.com
